If we were having coffee, I would tell you for the past one week, I have not been tormented by the phone call in the middle of the night with the voice on the other end saying, the doctor on call is needed in the hospital. Yes, I am on a very short break from work, albeit a much needed one.
If we were having coffee, I’d ask if you also listen to podcasts. I’d tell you I learnt something valuable from one of my favorite’s- Jeannie Mai. She is a recent divorcee and said, it’s important to know what your expectations are, from each other. It is not enough to say “I just want to be happy”. That dawned on me hard.
If we were having coffee, I will elaborate what she meant from the previous statement. It’s not just enough to say “I just want to be happy with you“, because in order to be happy with each other, things need to be done to get to that result- “happy”; also when expectations aren’t met and things aren’t done, the opposite of happy occurs.
So, at the end of the day, in other to be happy with another individual, it is important to define what happy means for each other and for yourself.
What I mean is, you can’t expect your partner to always make you happy, it is not his job. You should be able to define happiness for yourself. And then, for example, you can say, I want a partner who would support me in my business venture and career; I want a partner I can always come home to; I want a partner who would be able to argue with me someone who is opinionated; you get the point.
If we were having coffee, I’d tell you I’ve been on Aunty duty this week, with my favorite. I will tell you how from my short stay, she has fallen in love with the rhyme- rock a bye baby, she can now count from 1-5 using her fingers, and I have realised that three year olds these days know what makeup is and what goes where. I mean, when I was a kid, give me a plastic doll and I am good to go.
If we were having coffee, I’d tell you it feels like the more I try not to be anxious and stressed, the more stressed I get. I will need someone to explain that logic to me because my nails are getting shorter by the minute, if you know what I mean.
If we were having coffee, I’d tell you for 2020, my goal is to be a go-getter. Its not about dreaming, its about doing. I want to be active in achieving my goals, and not just survive but thrive in the best possible way. Wish me luck.
Until next time… wishing you loads of love, laughter and coffee ❤️.
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